MUSINGS ON THE NEW AGE
A series of blogs of life in the world of the New Age
Inner Guidance – Part 2 of 3
Each of us have our unique talents and abilities, areas in which we excel, but that does not make us spiritually above others. Negative ego deals in separation. It feeds on comparison and competition to feel better than, or worse than others for some form of identity and self-esteem.
This is different from healthy competition where people compete knowing they are bettering themselves and are grateful and honor their competitors. They see their own strengths and weaknesses as well as those of others around them and recognize that we can all help each other to be better.
Some of the greatest athletes, who can be the best in the world in their sport, are very humble. In their success they seek to encourage and raise their fellow competitors to be the best they can be. They know that success is not only winning races or winning a medal; it is about what they learn about themselves and how they compete against themselves to become better. It is not about putting down others so they can feel better about themselves.
Ego specialness sees others as a threat and actively works to squash anyone coming close in talent. I met a woman who was working on a self-help book at the same time I was writing my book on healing my relationship with my mother. She said to me, “What you’re doing isn’t real writing. My book is real writing.” It was an attempt to throw me into self-doubt, which didn’t work.
Later, she tried to engage me in a discussion of who had sold more books, her or me, as a way to determine who was a better writer, and therefore somehow the winner. I walked away from that discussion. Number of book sales does not determine who is a good writer. Whether a person is a mediocre, bad or good writer, they can always improve if they have the desire to.
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I do compete with myself. Safe and ability to learn and grow.
Competing with yourself is another piece of Lazaris wisdom.